Creating your own values and beliefs so you can start following the yellow brick road to your goals

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So I touch base on goal setting a lot because its always important to be constantly reminded of what we are actually aiming for.  Now the question is –  are you aligning your goals with your values and beliefs???

Well before I jump in, what are beliefs and values?

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Values are described as:

Personal Values are “broad desirable goals that motivate people’s actions and serve as guiding principles in their lives”

A personal value is a broad concept and one particular value can be applied to various situations. For example, if an important value to you is loyalty this could be applied to your family, friends or work environment.

Dr. Schwartz in 1992 presented 10 motivationally distinct types of values as listed below. These values have been researched in many countries and have been found to be universal in cross-cultural applications.

Schwartz Theory of Basic Values

  1. Self-direction – freedom, creativity
  2. Stimulation – exciting life, daring
  3. Hedonism – pleasure, self-indulgent
  4. Achievement – ambitious, successful
  5. Power – wealth, authority
  6. Security – social order, family security, cleanliness
  7. Conformity – politeness, self-discipline, respect
  8. Tradition – respect for traditions, modest, humble, devout
  9. Benevolence – loyal, responsible, helpful, forgiving
  10. Universalism – equality, wisdom, world of peace, social justice, protecting the environment

Lists of personal values can be indefinite but research has shown a value will generally fit into one of those 10 types.   There is no set of ideal values and everyone will have their own list of values with unique importance assigned to each one.

Take some time to identify what values you would like to base your life around as this is a great way to start the journey to creating the best version of yourself.

Next up, what are Beliefs?

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Beliefs can be described as:

Core beliefs are defined as fundamental, inflexible, absolute, and generalised beliefs that people hold about themselves, others, the world, and/or the future”.

We use beliefs to help us understand the world around us.

A person’s beliefs will guide them in their decision making and response to situations. Beliefs are usually formed in childhood or any other significant formative experience.

Sources of Beliefs

  • Evidence – logical and rational formation of belief based on evidence that proves causation
  • Tradition – family and societal traditions
  • Authority – normally developed from a parent but could also be a religious leader, teacher or any other person in authority
  • Association – beliefs can be formed through people or groups we associate with
  • Revelation – beliefs that are formed through ‘divine intervention” a hunch, inkling or sixth sense

Types of Beliefs – Enabling and Limiting

Beliefs can be seen as enabling (positive) or limiting (negative).

Enabling beliefs are ones that are optimistic and show good self-efficacy or the belief in yourself that you can achieve something.

Examples of enabling/ positive beliefs

  • I am intelligent
  • I am worthy
  • I always try my best
  • I am hardworking

Negative beliefs are thought as limiting and they often hold one back in life.

Limiting beliefs are often seen in absolutes and are often inaccurate and unhelpful.

People with limiting beliefs can often be judgmental of oneself or of others.

Examples of limiting/ negative beliefs

  • I am weak
  • I am boring
  • I am stupid
  • I always fail
  • I am worthless

Beliefs, positive or negative, are not always true and this can lead a person to make poor decisions based on inaccurate beliefs. Research shows that people with inaccurate negative beliefs about themselves can present with symptoms of anxiety and depression.

Now identify what beliefs you have and which ones are holding you back? and write down what you are going to change to create a stronger belief system.

So now that we have covered where we are going to lay the bricks lets start putting them down, so you have created the ideal value and belief system for yourself, what are your goals?

write down 3 years goals to achieve for three different things, Personal Goal, Business Goal and a Hobbie Goal / Personal Development Goal

Break this down into daily goals that will lead into you achieving your weekly goal and then into monthly which will eventually lead you into achieving your yearly goal.

See how we are starting to flow everything together?

Each day you’ll reflect on the day and ask yourself did i achieve my daily goal, if not why not?  And ask yourself what can you do tomorrow to achieve your daily goal, the same goes for weekly = reflect weekly

Monthly = reflect monthly and Year Reset and reflect yearly.

Everything we do must work together, you cant expect to go on a holiday without planning how you will get there, what you will do, how much it will cost, and how long it will take.

Treat your progress as a process rather than a quick fix, 1% progress is better than no progress, but don;t limit yourself on the amount of action you can take.

I recently updated my goal setting sheet which you can have, just let me know and I’ll be more than happy to send it through, just ask for it and its all yours.

 

 

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The Spartan Race Challenge:   We all have an opportunity to try new things, meet new people and create a community of support.  Through new challenges comes new rewards and only we can decide if we want to change and challenge ourself to improve..

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